So by now I am used to the numerous stares I get when I am out in public with my two kiddos... most of the time the stares are harmless, but sometimes random strangers take it upon themselves to ask me inappropriate personal questions about whether or not my daughter is my "real" daughter, etc. I know all of you other adoptive parents who have children of another race know what I'm talking about! :)
For those who don't know... it is one thing to talk about your family and your adoption with people who are invested in your life as friends, or who are honestly trying to find out more information about adoption because they are considering adopting themselves. It's a whole different story to fend off questions from complete strangers who insert themselves into your lives in public places and seem to think it's appropriate to ask you very personal questions. I find myself often "on guard" in these situations because I know my primary responsibility is to guard my children and show them appropriate responses to "inquisitve" questions from strangers. Sometimes people mean well, but the fact of the matter is that if we don't know them (or why they are asking) then we typically don't share much. I also want to protect my daughter and her story... it's not the business of the lady at the library to know what happened to her parents and whether I love her as much as I love my son (yep, just a sample of questions people actually ask IN FRONT OF my kids). I could write a whole post on this, but I think I will save that for another time...
Today, I have a lighter, more humerous story to share!
I was at Target this morning with my kids and noticed that the cashier was "studying" us, and I was prepared for the typical round of questions. But this time, the conversation went a little different....
Cashier: You have beautiful children!
Me: Thank you!
Cashier: How old are they?
Me: They are both four.
Cashier: (continues thoughtfully studying them) Oh, are they twins?
Me: (stunned silence) Um.... no.... they are not twins. But they sure act like it sometimes :)
And with that, we left the store! True story! I have no idea what she was really thinking but I just smiled all the way to the car and knew this deserved to be recorded in a blog post :)
"Twins"... can't you see it?!?